Top 10 Things I’ve Learned in 2015

Happy almost-New Year Zenful Dancers! 2015 was a tremendous year of a wonderful highs and several very low lows- grounds for learning better for next year!  Here’s my Top 10:

10. Let go.  Getting upset seems to affect me far more than I’ve openly admitted in the past. It makes me physically sick.  Sure there’s a time and place for getting upset, but to cling to the idea of it while it drives me into the ground is well, SO counterproductive! Plus, I can’t think straight and I prefer to think straight. 🙂

9. Health comes first.  Be healthy and stay healthy.  No more taking good health for granted.  Health problems affect all areas of my life including my job, my relationships and my mood, not just my body.

8. Meditation is a lifesaver, I should do it more.IMG_0768  I’ve had a morning practice for years.  Time to add evenings.

7. Everyone I cross paths with is my teacher.  If I remain open, I can learn and grow from everyone I meet.  What to do.  What not to do.  Valuable lessons.

6. There is peace of mind in saving more money and owning less stuff.

5. Stop underestimating myself.   I am capable of far more when I choose to stay the path and not give into being a victim.

4. Laugh everyday. I friggen’ LOVE to laugh and I have never made a conscious effort to do it on a daily basis.  Life is SO much better with belly-aching, side-splitting laughter!

3. Invest without setting expectations of specific results.  Easy to say but much harder to do, this is a big lesson for me this year.

2. I am capable of living an extraordinary life once I get out of my own way.  Enough said.

1. Being happy can bring others happiness.   I had always thought this notion was selfish but this year I learned that it doesn’t have to be bad-selfish, as long as being happy isn’t at the expense of others.  Rather, it can be the kind that radiates goodness to everyone around me.

Here’s to a successful 2016 full of happiness, love, joy, laughter, growth and GREAT health!

Leah Joy, The Zenful Blogger

Up the Wazoo

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Hey Zenful Dancers! How are you? I hope you are all well and feeling healthy, balanced and happy. It’s been a minute so I thought it would be as good a time as any to post an update of what’s been going on over here with lil ol me.

The catch-phrase up the wazoo popped into my head this morning as I woke up to a flurry of overwhelming thoughts of recent events in my life that were all so heavy and all too real for one person to have to deal with on their own, all at once.

I know what you’re thinking. Why up the wazoo? Why not just cry like a little baby or beat a pillow or sing I Will Survive like normal people do? Well I tried those the other day and they didn’t work out (think twice before you start beating your favorite 7-year-old down pillow).

Sooo now what? MORE meditation? More mindfulness? Less self pity? (definitely, yes) The fact is that most of these overwhelming occurrences already happened and it’s only the thoughts in my head about them that prolong my suffering. The more I sit with the “now” the less time I have for anything else (is there really anything else besides right now anyway?). Am I onto something here? I think I am.

Have a nice now. 🙂

-Leah Joy, The Zenful Blogger

My Morning Mourning

This morning I cried. I cried for the 12 staff members of Charlie Hebdo who lost their lives because they chose to exercise their freedom of press and speech and expression. This morning I cried for the bombing outside the NAACP. I cried for the murdered police officers in Brooklyn who serviced their Country and community. I cried for all the peaceful Muslims, Jews, Christians and Buddhists of the world who are caught in the crossfire of religious extremists who commit selfish acts of hurt in the name of God, power or money.

This morning I sobbed for all the selfish people in the world who truly believe their needs are more important than someone else’s needs. We are all selfish. We all have needs. Let’s not step on the backs of others to get where we need to go! But we do it. We do it again and again and it seems we will never learn.

Today, I choose to be kind. If I’m brave, I’ll choose this again tomorrow, and then the next day. You should choose this too. Don’t allow your weaknesses to get the better of you. Be strong and choose kindness over hate. Compassion over power and manipulation. Love over fear.

But for now, I feel really sad. Sad and alone.

-Leah Joy, The Zenful Blogger