Top 10 Things I’ve Learned in 2015

Happy almost-New Year Zenful Dancers! 2015 was a tremendous year of a wonderful highs and several very low lows- grounds for learning better for next year!  Here’s my Top 10:

10. Let go.  Getting upset seems to affect me far more than I’ve openly admitted in the past. It makes me physically sick.  Sure there’s a time and place for getting upset, but to cling to the idea of it while it drives me into the ground is well, SO counterproductive! Plus, I can’t think straight and I prefer to think straight. 🙂

9. Health comes first.  Be healthy and stay healthy.  No more taking good health for granted.  Health problems affect all areas of my life including my job, my relationships and my mood, not just my body.

8. Meditation is a lifesaver, I should do it more.IMG_0768  I’ve had a morning practice for years.  Time to add evenings.

7. Everyone I cross paths with is my teacher.  If I remain open, I can learn and grow from everyone I meet.  What to do.  What not to do.  Valuable lessons.

6. There is peace of mind in saving more money and owning less stuff.

5. Stop underestimating myself.   I am capable of far more when I choose to stay the path and not give into being a victim.

4. Laugh everyday. I friggen’ LOVE to laugh and I have never made a conscious effort to do it on a daily basis.  Life is SO much better with belly-aching, side-splitting laughter!

3. Invest without setting expectations of specific results.  Easy to say but much harder to do, this is a big lesson for me this year.

2. I am capable of living an extraordinary life once I get out of my own way.  Enough said.

1. Being happy can bring others happiness.   I had always thought this notion was selfish but this year I learned that it doesn’t have to be bad-selfish, as long as being happy isn’t at the expense of others.  Rather, it can be the kind that radiates goodness to everyone around me.

Here’s to a successful 2016 full of happiness, love, joy, laughter, growth and GREAT health!

Leah Joy, The Zenful Blogger

Red Light… Green Light!

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Wait… wait… wait… GO! Wait… wait… wait… GO! GO!! If this sounds anything like familiar to you than either you’re an expert “Red Light Green Light” gamer or you have encountered the hurry up and wait challenges that life often brings.

Living in NYC, my level of patience tends to fluctuate between absolutely nothing, and when I am mindful, slightly more than very little. This of course doesn’t leave much for my 9 million fellow New Yorkers I share the space with. It certainly doesn’t leave much for my coworkers and colleagues, and at the end of the day, there’s almost nothing left for my loved ones, friends and family.

Since this is ultimately a post about life balance and community, I’d love your input on how you find your patient place. How do you snuggle up to the red lights when you already have all the adrenaline rushing through your veins from the green? Do tell! Wait… ok yeah, please share. 🙂

-TZB

Homage to Love

A Frenchman from Montreal and a California girl from New York met in Dallas last April.

On the 4th of July they met again in Queens and again in Marseille. It was love.  Simple and true.

The Autumn turned to Winter and her insecurities weakened her trust and doubt entered his mind for the first time.

Snow came to New York and Montreal and her love softened and warmed them both but he decided his love was not enough to strengthen what was now a delicate vulnerability.  He questioned everything.

They held each other in tears through the night and It ended this Tuesday morning in January in Montreal in the dead of Winter.

Spring will come soon.

TZB

The Safety Dance and Other Creative Roads to Recovery

Dance.  It was, has been and will always be my life.  It’s like a breath of fresh air when my lungs have been doused in polluted shit for what seems like an eternity.  I can breathe fully.

To have dance removed from my life is like learning how to speak again after the muscles and tendons in my jaw have been replaced with sand.  There’s only acknowledgement of a major change and frustration fills the areas where familiarity used to live.  The putting on of the helmet and the strapping on the seat belt.  The expression that was has now turned into a loss for words even though the thought behind those words still hovers in my sore throat.  Hovering is so annoying.

And to find my voice once again is a miracle.  Maybe not the religious type of miracle but a gift just the same.  I am dancing again through fresh eyes and a fresh mouth (fuck I fucking missed this feeling!) and the expression I choose to wear on my face and on my sleeve is pure, unadulterated and devoted passion and love, sweet love for the dance.

-Leah Joy, The Zenful Blogger

TZB Project 365 (Day 72) – Let It Go, Let It Be.

If you’re anything like me (and for your sake I hope you’re not 🙂 ), trying to control my feelings and reactions as well as other people’s feelings and reactions can be a full time job!  I am in sales and nothing bothers me more than knowing someone doesn’t approve of me or like me or how I do things.  It bothers me so much sometimes that I’ll obsess about ways to fix it until that certain someone can like me again.  (Very unZen, I know). 

So I’ve concocted an exercise to help me let go:

I think about who I am and I say to myself, “I am a kind, helpful, decent and honest person and I always try my very best to be the best version of myself I can be.  This is the best I can do for myself and those around me, and others will choose to accept me or not, but that is not my concern”.

Let it go, let it be.

The Zenful Blogger